Bad boys are no longer the wave. Find yourself a responsible, loyal person and enjoy your life biko! The whole trying to land a #YorubaDemon mentality will leave you very miserable. Anyone that tells you all men cheat is lying.Even if all men cheat all of them are not clumsy enough to get caught! At least be with someone that respects you and won’t allow you to catch him!!!!!
There are some men out there that are incapable of approaching a woman talk less of cheating. There are still men with integrity! There are still men that believe in one man one wife. Staying loyal to a man that treats you like shit is too rampant in our community. If a man is useless, treats you like crap, or cheats repeatedly please leave him. You can do better. Being single does not mean you are not a complete woman. If he isn’t your husband and he is still just a boyfriend please don’t sign yourself up for a lifetime of sorrow. If he cheats on you when its just boyfriend and girlfriend he will surely cheat again in your matrimonial home.
If a guy cheats on you only once and you truly love him and want to stay by all means go ahead. But make sure it isn’t something thats going to become a pattern. If he cheats once, twice, three times you know he is a serial cheater and will never stop. You then have to make the decision if you want to live life with a cheater or move on. The only reason I think any woman should stay in that type of situation is if the guy is extremely rich!
If this is a one time occurrence and you decide to stay unfortunately you must show that man pepper! We will go into details about how to punish a guy for bad behavior in a later post so stay tuned !
4 Reasons Women Stay With Serial Cheaters:
1. Bad advice from mothers, aunts, and friends
Unfortunately many of our mothers have passed down to their daughters the idea that if your man cheats just look the other way. Hell no! The reason why they did this is because many of them didn’t have the means of standing on their own two feet. If the marriage crumbled life was actually over. They couldn’t stand the shame of going back to their “fathers house.” The fear of the unknown overpowered their better judgement. This isn’t the case anymore.
2. I can’t do better
This stems from low self esteem. Some woman feel that if they leave the guy they are with they will never find anyone better. Get it together girl. If he is treating you like crap he isn’t that great! You would be surprised what might happen if you take some time away from the relationship and work on yourself. You might find someone ten times better!
3. I don’t want to be alone
If you can’t be alone you have no business being in a relationship. Everyone needs to love spending time with themselves. If you feel like if you are not in a relationship you are not enjoying life something is wrong somewhere.
4. He’s my baby daddy
If you have children with a man that is a serial cheater it is understandable why you would not want to leave. This situation needs to be examined very carefully. Does he cheat but is a great dad and is consistent? Or is he the type of person that drops in and out of your life when he pleases. If he is the second type of guy it would be better off for your child to leave him. Children NEED stability and routine in order to grow up and be responsible adults. If you live in an unstable home you may unknowingly cause your child to become and irresponsible adult.
Have you ever been with a serial cheater?